Victoria Peace Green

Children's Author * Freelance Writer * Speaker

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OUR TWEENS AND TEENS ARE MORE ANXIOUS THAN EVER THESE DAYS

                             

WHAT DID YOU READ about this morning or hear on the radio on your way into work? These days 9 times out of 10 the answer is just NOT GOOD NEWS. No matter what are personal opinions are about today’s world, politics, and the seemingly continued chaos, the news affects your emotions if you are truly honest with yourself. And more so if you are a parent of a middle schooler or high schooler. Our kids take it all in as much as we do but don’t have the years of experiential living to deal with it.

Studies show that their young minds are getting more and more anxiety ridden and most don’t realize this constant barrage of bad news brings on overwhelming symptoms. We parents are in position to defuse or lighten the emotions of our kids. If you could list the top 4 reasons why our teens and middle schoolers are depressed/anxiety ridden what would that list look like? Anything like this one I researched?

Control of the world around them or no control of their own lives adds to depression and anxiety. Lack of control or too much control affects them. Compared to decades past, today’s social issues, diseases, excess of materialism brings on confusion and the feeling that these impressionable youths have no control over their own lives.

Our kids have no free time anymore for real ‘play’ time; good old fashion spending time outside or enjoying family for just being together. Work and school work and the constant trying to catch up – keeps our tweens and teens frustrated and anxiety filled.

Lack of parents taking on their parent responsibility seriously. There may not be a user manual for how to nurture children; but there is HEART and there is RESPONSIBITY! Some parents try to help their kids Continue reading

REAL LIFE LESSONS TAUGHT OUR KIDS DURING FAMILY TIMES= VALUES LEARNED

REAL LIFE LESSONS TAUGHT OUR KIDS DURING FAMILY TIMES= VALUES LEARNED

Having a security system is a top priority for many families today. This weekend Thomas and I are installing a security system in our new home! We decided since we have always had one, it was best to purchase one for home. Peace of mind as well as safeguarding our home is a makes this a worthy purchase.

        Our new system has a master or mother board. The components work off of this base. It is a transmitter alarming all the components to do ‘their jobs’. You can go all out and get stuff like sirens/freeze sensor/carbon monoxide detector/glassbreak sensors/panic button/smoke detectors, and the list goes on!   

         I was thinking what a terrific event this would be for a young family. All the conversation, lessons learned, and even values taught could bounce off the installation of a security system! No better way to instill life lessons than to involve your kids in the project!  

          Why do people need security? What is an intruder? Besides a home, how might a person guard their mind and heart? What about the people or friends you hang out with, things you do or possess, places you visit, games you play, and stuff you read? Like the alarm system has a master or mother board and then the various add-ons or components work off them, how can this security system help parents explain the above? Continue reading

HAVE YOUR TWEEN’S OR TEENS INTERESTS BECOME OBESSIONS?

Have your Tween or Teen’s Interests Become Obsessions?

Lately you notice your tween or teen rearranging their room; one detail after another. For several months, all they did was do games or talk about the stuff on their I-pod touches. Games and apps flooded your tweens mind! Becoming one-tracked or obsessed in our thinking can cut anyone off from other activities or friends.

Interests or passions are what makes life exciting and help your kids to discover what they might like to do as an adult!  But though it is so important to have interests and learn all about them, it is also cool to have a balance! Balance is making our daily lives useful for us and others.

Why not:take that awesome interest and find new ways learn about it. Maybe suggest decorating their room and then let their friends know they’d like to help them do the same. Or again suggest your teen meet with other kids regularly to just talk and research their interests on the net about some great design ideas!

Instead of playing games on their iPod-touch or on the X-Box or other device, help your tween or teen see their talent for making up a game or making of video of an idea they have. Are any of our kids talented with drawing? Help them to see that gift in drawing a game and it’s different levels?  Gather  a few kids together regularly and brainstorm ways to turn computer games into board games for younger kids!  

Kids are always ready and eager for us parent’s positive/constructive comments and yes, even compliments! We can’t praise their work/efforts/and their willingness to work together, enough!

 

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FAITH-IT…INCH BY INCH- DO YOU BELIEVE JESUS FOR WHAT HE SAYS HE CAN DO?

 “FAITH-IT…INCH BY INCH” YOU BELIEVE IN JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD…BUT DO YOU BELIEVE JESUS CHRIST FOR WHAT HE SAYS HE WILL DO?

We go to church, Sunday School, Life-groups, take time for devotions, take our faith everywhere with us all day long, and believe God, right? Not always is that the case. Do I really believe He, my Savior, will totally hear my prayers? Why are some prayers seemingly not answered and others are on spot?

What’s His Word say to us….” I know the plans I have for you…. not to harm you…. give you a hope and a future…” Jeremiah 29 11-13 (bits and pieces of it). The prayers that seemed ignored or not answered I need to change my view, my daily view, of how to look at God inside my faithing-It (or walking into my personal faith). God’s overall plan for my life is PERFECT because He is perfect…. His perfect is not my perfect. It is even WAY BETTER!  

Bottom line: When we pray for anything, we are asked to first BELIEVE that God is able to do that thing.

“But when he asks, he must believe and don’t doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord, he is a double-minded man.” James 1:6-7

Hmmm. But what does God do when we feel hopeless? What does the Lord do when all the reality of the problem seems to point to ‘NO WAY OUT’ or “A MIRACLE? I DON’T THINK SO”. How many times do we come up feeling empty after asking God? We looked everywhere we know to look for His answer but did we ask our heavenly Father- truly believing God for His answer?

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YOUR MIDDLE SCHOOLER AND HER CELL PHONE

Cell Phones. If you are a parent of a middle school child, perhaps those two words brings a host of emotional responses. Everything from, “I thank God my kid can be safe with a phone now when he/she is not at home” to …. “What in the world is THIS TEXT I see on my daughter’s phone?! Who would send such a horrible text?” Cell phones, like all social media, are a thing that is here to stay and no matter how we may feel about our kids and CELL PHONES, we need to find a clear and resolute standard for our kids to follow and respect.

When asked what is the most important thing you could have if you were stranded on a desert island, what did pre-teen kids say? A Cell phone! More than any other device or thing!!

Cell phones with the texting and the FACETIME can be like having a host of other parent’s kids in your house that you didn’t invite! Suddenly without warning, you are bombarded with another kid or two (depending on how many kids you have with phones) present and carrying on loud chatter at your table! What is a parent to do about this or about any of the ‘rude nesses’ that kids think are “just life and normal”?  How about some rules? After all, freedoms without rules is chaos and not what parents want to mirror or consent to.

Identify all people texting your kid. If you don’t have time to check each one, then you are not being a responsible parent. Your kid should expect a loving and protective parent to do such.  Being involved is love. Continue reading

HELP! MY MIDDLE SCHOOLER DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO KEEP HER FRIENDS

HELP! MY MIDDLE SCHOOLER DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO KEEP HER FRIENDS!

Finish this sentence: The most important moments of my day are…………………………… As parents filling in that sentence can change depending perhaps on the day of the week. But most middle schoolers know the answer is the same 2/47!

Your child would say emphatically, “my friends are the most moments in my day!!” What kind of a question is it anyway because those of us with middle schoolers already know the answer. As our tweens move from childhood toward teenage years, it is all natural to pull away from mom and dad and establish supportive relationships amongst their peers.  Friendships in middle school can make or break everything else in their life; grades, sports, family life and just their general mood. What can parents do to help tweens make and keep their friends? We can have an influential role but being matter-of-fact is the key to our child accepting our advice. We want to help our kids to make the healthy friendships which encourage them to be comfortable within themselves as well as be a good friend. Check out some tips for us parents: Continue reading

10 Things Your Middle School Kid Wishes You Knew!

Come on Dad; let me make up my own mind please. Thank you for your opinion, but I want to try to figure this out on my own. I need to take my time and I will be ready by the time the bus comes. Please!” Maybe you hear the same plea in the mornings before school as your tween decides what clothes to wear or which way “the hair” will look good today.

But if we could be a crumb sitting on their lunchroom cafeteria table, we might hear them ranting and raving about us; their parents. Maybe we might be more help than we realize if we could listen with a discerning ear. “I wish my parents were more……..”. 

  • Patient- I’m really able to get my routine done before school but I’m my own person. Even though I need a nudge to get going, please don’t nag me just know I am doing my best to get on that bus- after all I don’t want to be embarrassed by being late.
  • Let me choose my friends – wish you would ask me more about my friends before you judge them. If you don’t like them it seems like you don’t trust me to choose the ‘right friends’. Trust me to make mistakes as I pick and choose – stay open minded but if you still think they are bad to me, please, I need your gentle guidance showing me sound choices and also on my side.

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WHEN BFF’S MOVE AWAY

 

Summertime for tweens is a time of freedom, to re-group and take some time off from school. Close friends are always available with just a phone call away or an invite to spend the night, unless that close friend moves away. Summer has lots of fun but also brings families to relocate due to job transfers and a host of other reasons.

 But our tween’s do not take their relationships casually. They take them deeply! Buddies and BFF’s are a large part of their development. Most people do not like the adjustments that come with moving, but tweens are devastated emotionally when it involves them.

 No matter the personality of your child; shy or gregarious, they all have the same emotions. Having a BFF or a close buddy or two to share their ups and downs and great dreams is powerful security. Many times, family issues bring the unknown or insecurity for tweens, as they do us- so having close friendships with the same interests naturally brings security and safety emotionally. God gives them friends to be their anchor when rough times come at school, with school work, with siblings, loss of a pet, loss of a family member and a just a safe place of coping.

 Helping our tweens through the storms of life such as friends moving or our own tween moving, can be a great way once again for us as parents and grandparents to show them they can lean into us and God.

 One of the hardest things we as parents will do is helping our tween say good-bye. Continue reading

ARE YOUR TWEENS ACTING MORE LIKE TEENAGERS THAN KIDS?

I I really don’t like to go to dentists appointments- I don’t think anyone does unless their tooth is in horrific pain! But a few weeks ago while sitting in the waiting area I couldn’t help but feel so sad for this person across the room. I could see the tiredness in her eyes as she adjusted the earbuds in her ears to take a call. Her laptop was opened on her lap but she was overwhelmed as she talked on her pink cell phone about some report she had messed up- how could that be since spending two weeks on I heard her remind the caller. “I don’t know what to do now, because I have a meeting with Mr. Taylor tomorrow and this Saturday are team finals!” Listening and listening again she was quiet and then reassuringly said just before she disconnected, “OK, mom, dad is about to pick me up- I’ll see you tomorrow after your flight gets in.”  This was a child; about 11 years old I guessed.

 Today’s kids are growing up too fast and with so much responsibility in their young lives! I don’t mean that I am old fashion, but it is true. Does this describe your child? Tweens are blending in with teenagers and their minds are no different when it comes to social and what is expected of them from teachers, peers, coaches, and their families! Yup. Tweens are 8-12 years old! Remember the days when you were that age? What has happened to cause this jog toward adulthood?

 How about PRESURE? We all had pressure as tweens. But today’s world is changing faster than ever before. Pressure from society’s changing landscape, technology, the marketplace and its cultural changes, school pressure, and parents make our tweens into what they are today. Continue reading

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