I so enjoyed watching the Wide World of Sports when I was just a girl with my Dad! 😊We would sit on the couch side by side, my Dad would be overcome with either complete shouting joy or shout at the TV and nearly falling off the couch in anger! Never the less it was where I gained my love for football. 🙂 Then the Wide World of Sports continued with my husband 😊 until it was off the air in 1998. ☹ My husband and I laugh from time to time when one of us, while watching like these Olympics look at the other and say… “AWWW, the thrill of victory and…..the agony of defeat!” A bit of trivia…who was the announcer?
We look forward to both summer and winter events of the Olympics…. some not so much and others with great enthusiasm. With that word said, “enthusiasm”, is to me, one of the classic emotions of the games.
In fact, what all of the games carry simultaneously are EXTREME emotions. No moderate emotion in between! Have you ever thought about it? I mean from the thrill of victory is what these mostly young adults are seeking and to stay on a that high! Their goal? Duh! THE GOLD. Aw, yes, the silver or the bronze are nice but the GOLD is the Thrill of Victory. I always have thought that tiny little phrase should be engraved on the back of each GOLD metal. Ha! JK, but no doubt about it we have all seen the Gold medal winner in their inexplicable thrill.
But then there is the other EXTREME emotion…the horrible and don’t even mention-type emotion of the agony of defeat that haunts that skier or skater, bob sled racer or snow boarder!!! The stomach churns and the face becomes pale, the heart pounds too many beats for comfort and then its time! Their time has come to attain the GOLD …what they have done for the past 4 years suddenly turns into the AGONY of defeat.
Why is January seem so long?
I went for a walk today. Its been cold but no rain here in California until yesterday! The rains are coming back to Northern California!
As I stepped outside to begin my walk I felt like ugh, maybe I won’t go out into the cold, the seemingly deadness of all the trees and sky so gray. It all made me want to just curl up in a blanket instead.
But I forced myself! So, as I went- the trees surprised me. I think I began to think and look at just why January was seemingly longer than other months and that the trees really were not cold and dead-looking! Maybe it seemed longer because December was so full of busy-ness and expectation? I know the trees really aren’t dead but just waiting, waiting for the right time to show-off what the is inside them! They are all different type trees up here …many varieties! Each tree I began to see is majorly full of HOPE…a hope that will be real to the eye come Spring. So, as I walked I thought to myself that the trees had a message for me. Everything that has life has HOPE just waiting to come forth. To be realized and become…. whatever it is inside, like the unique trees will one day, display gorgeous blossoms or leaves with birds to nest in, I too have all this God-given purpose inside me and it is to be ‘displayed’ at just the right time! The gray skies have a powerful sun behind them with blue skies!
Today I found more than a cold and empty January! Expecting more from tomorrows walk! What a place to encourage my family, grandkids and friends. What is your take on January?
WHAT DID YOU READ about this morning or hear on the radio on your way into work? These days 9 times out of 10 the answer is just NOT GOOD NEWS. No matter what are personal opinions are about today’s world, politics, and the seemingly continued chaos, the news affects your emotions if you are truly honest with yourself. And more so if you are a parent of a middle schooler or high schooler. Our kids take it all in as much as we do but don’t have the years of experiential living to deal with it.
Studies show that their young minds are getting more and more anxiety ridden and most don’t realize this constant barrage of bad news brings on overwhelming symptoms. We parents are in position to defuse or lighten the emotions of our kids. If you could list the top 4 reasons why our teens and middle schoolers are depressed/anxiety ridden what would that list look like? Anything like this one I researched?
Control of the world around them or no control of their own lives adds to depression and anxiety. Lack of control or too much control affects them. Compared to decades past, today’s social issues, diseases, excess of materialism brings on confusion and the feeling that these impressionable youths have no control over their own lives.
REAL LIFE LESSONS TAUGHT OUR KIDS DURING FAMILY TIMES= VALUES LEARNED
Having a security system is a top priority for many families today. This weekend Thomas and I are installing a security system in our new home! We decided since we have always had one, it was best to purchase one for home. Peace of mind as well as safeguarding our home is a makes this a worthy purchase.
Our new system has a master or mother board. The components work off of this base. It is a transmitter alarming all the components to do ‘their jobs’. You can go all out and get stuff like sirens/freeze sensor/carbon monoxide detector/glassbreak sensors/panic button/smoke detectors, and the list goes on!
I was thinking what a terrific event this would be for a young family. All the conversation, lessons learned, and even values taught could bounce off the installation of a security system! No better way to instill life lessons than to involve your kids in the project!
Why do people need security? What is an intruder? Besides a home, how might a person guard their mind and heart? What about the people or friends you hang out with, things you do or possess, places you visit, games you play, and stuff you read? Like the alarm system has a master or mother board and then the various add-ons or components work off them, how can this security system help parents explain the above? Continue reading
Have your Tween or Teen’s Interests Become Obsessions?
Lately you notice your tween or teen rearranging their room; one detail after another. For several months, all they did was do games or talk about the stuff on their I-pod touches. Games and apps flooded your tweens mind! Becoming one-tracked or obsessed in our thinking can cut anyone off from other activities or friends.
Interests or passions are what makes life exciting and help your kids to discover what they might like to do as an adult! But though it is so important to have interests and learn all about them, it is also cool to have a balance! Balance is making our daily lives useful for us and others.
Why not:take that awesome interest and find new ways learn about it. Maybe suggest decorating their room and then let their friends know they’d like to help them do the same. Or again suggest your teen meet with other kids regularly to just talk and research their interests on the net about some great design ideas!
Instead of playing games on their iPod-touch or on the X-Box or other device, help your tween or teen see their talent for making up a game or making of video of an idea they have. Are any of our kids talented with drawing? Help them to see that gift in drawing a game and it’s different levels? Gather a few kids together regularly and brainstorm ways to turn computer games into board games for younger kids!
Kids are always ready and eager for us parent’s positive/constructive comments and yes, even compliments! We can’t praise their work/efforts/and their willingness to work together, enough!
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FAITH-IT INCH BY INCH… YOU BELIEVE JESUS AS YOUR LORD, BUT DO YOU BELIEVE HIM FOR WHAT HE PROMISES YOU IN HIS WORD?
We go to church, Sunday School, Life-groups, take time for devotions, take our faith everywhere with us all day long, and believe God, right? Not always is that the case. Do I really believe He, my Savior, will totally hear my prayers? Why are some prayers seemingly not answered and others are on spot?
What’s His Word say to us….” I know the plans I have for you…. not to harm you…. give you a hope and a future…” Jeremiah 29 11-13 (bits and pieces of it). The prayers that seemed ignored or not answered I need to change my view, my daily view, of how to look at God inside my faithing-It (or walking into my personal faith). God’s overall plan for my life is PERFECT because He is perfect…. His perfect is not my perfect. It is even WAY BETTER!
Bottom line: When we pray for anything, we are asked to first BELIEVE that God is able to do that thing.
“But when he asks, he must believe and don’t doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord, he is a double-minded man.” James 1:6-7
Hmmm. But what does God do when we feel hopeless? What does the Lord do when all the reality of the problem seems to point to ‘NO WAY OUT’ or “A MIRACLE? I DON’T THINK SO”. How many times do we come up feeling empty after asking God? We looked everywhere we know to look for His answer but did we ask our heavenly Father- truly believing God for His answer? Continue reading
Cell Phones. If you are a parent of a middle school child, perhaps those two words brings a host of emotional responses. Everything from, “I thank God my kid can be safe with a phone now when he/she is not at home” to …. “What in the world is THIS TEXT I see on my daughter’s phone?! Who would send such a horrible text?” Cell phones, like all social media, are a thing that is here to stay and no matter how we may feel about our kids and CELL PHONES, we need to find a clear and resolute standard for our kids to follow and respect.
When asked what is the most important thing you could have if you were stranded on a desert island, what did pre-teen kids say? A Cell phone! More than any other device or thing!!
Cell phones with the texting and the FACETIME can be like having a host of other parent’s kids in your house that you didn’t invite! Suddenly without warning, you are bombarded with another kid or two (depending on how many kids you have with phones) present and carrying on loud chatter at your table! What is a parent to do about this or about any of the ‘rude nesses’ that kids think are “just life and normal”? How about some rules? After all, freedoms without rules is chaos and not what parents want to mirror or consent to.
Identify all people texting your kid. If you don’t have time to check each one, then you are not being a responsible parent. Your kid should expect a loving and protective parent to do such. Being involved is love.
HELP! MY MIDDLE SCHOOLER DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO KEEP HER FRIENDS!
Finish this sentence: The most important moments of my day are…………………………… As parents filling in that sentence can change depending perhaps on the day of the week. But most middle schoolers know the answer is the same 2/47!
Your child would say emphatically, “my friends are the most moments in my day!!” What kind of a question is it anyway because those of us with middle schoolers already know the answer. As our tweens move from childhood toward teenage years, it is all natural to pull away from mom and dad and establish supportive relationships amongst their peers. Friendships in middle school can make or break everything else in their life; grades, sports, family life and just their general mood. What can parents do to help tweens make and keep their friends? We can have an influential role but being matter-of-fact is the key to our child accepting our advice. We want to help our kids to make the healthy friendships which encourage them to be comfortable within themselves as well as be a good friend. Check out some tips for us parents: Continue reading
“Come on Dad; let me make up my own mind please. Thank you for your opinion, but I want to try to figure this out on my own. I need to take my time and I will be ready by the time the bus comes. Please!” Maybe you hear the same plea in the mornings before school as your tween decides what clothes to wear or which way “the hair” will look good today.
But if we could be a crumb sitting on their lunchroom cafeteria table, we might hear them ranting and raving about us; their parents. Maybe we might be more help than we realize if we could listen with a discerning ear. “I wish my parents were more……..”.
- Patient- I’m really able to get my routine done before school but I’m my own person. Even though I need a nudge to get going, please don’t nag me just know I am doing my best to get on that bus- after all I don’t want to be embarrassed by being late.
- Let me choose my friends – wish you would ask me more about my friends before you judge them. If you don’t like them it seems like you don’t trust me to choose the ‘right friends’. Trust me to make mistakes as I pick and choose – stay open minded but if you still think they are bad to me, please, I need your gentle guidance showing me sound choices and also on my side.
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