WHAT DID YOU READ about this morning or hear on the radio on your way into work? These days 9 times out of 10 the answer is just NOT GOOD NEWS. No matter what are personal opinions are about today’s world, politics, and the seemingly continued chaos, the news affects your emotions if you are truly honest with yourself. And more so if you are a parent of a middle schooler or high schooler. Our kids take it all in as much as we do but don’t have the years of experiential living to deal with it.
Studies show that their young minds are getting more and more anxiety ridden and most don’t realize this constant barrage of bad news brings on overwhelming symptoms. We parents are in position to defuse or lighten the emotions of our kids. If you could list the top 4 reasons why our teens and middle schoolers are depressed/anxiety ridden what would that list look like? Anything like this one I researched?
Control of the world around them or no control of their own lives adds to depression and anxiety. Lack of control or too much control affects them. Compared to decades past, today’s social issues, diseases, excess of materialism brings on confusion and the feeling that these impressionable youths have no control over their own lives.
Our kids have no free time anymore for real ‘play’ time; good old fashion spending time outside or enjoying family for just being together. Work and school work and the constant trying to catch up – keeps our tweens and teens frustrated and anxiety filled.
Lack of parents taking on their parent responsibility seriously. There may not be a user manual for how to nurture children; but there is HEART and there is RESPONSIBITY! Some parents try to help their kids Continue reading
Have your Tween or Teen’s Interests Become Obsessions?
Lately you notice your tween or teen rearranging their room; one detail after another. For several months, all they did was do games or talk about the stuff on their I-pod touches. Games and apps flooded your tweens mind! Becoming one-tracked or obsessed in our thinking can cut anyone off from other activities or friends.
Interests or passions are what makes life exciting and help your kids to discover what they might like to do as an adult! But though it is so important to have interests and learn all about them, it is also cool to have a balance! Balance is making our daily lives useful for us and others.
Why not:take that awesome interest and find new ways learn about it. Maybe suggest decorating their room and then let their friends know they’d like to help them do the same. Or again suggest your teen meet with other kids regularly to just talk and research their interests on the net about some great design ideas!
Instead of playing games on their iPod-touch or on the X-Box or other device, help your tween or teen see their talent for making up a game or making of video of an idea they have. Are any of our kids talented with drawing? Help them to see that gift in drawing a game and it’s different levels? Gather a few kids together regularly and brainstorm ways to turn computer games into board games for younger kids!
Kids are always ready and eager for us parent’s positive/constructive comments and yes, even compliments! We can’t praise their work/efforts/and their willingness to work together, enough!
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“FAITH-IT…INCH BY INCH” YOU BELIEVE IN JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD…BUT DO YOU BELIEVE JESUS CHRIST FOR WHAT HE SAYS HE WILL DO?
We go to church, Sunday School, Life-groups, take time for devotions, take our faith everywhere with us all day long, and believe God, right? Not always is that the case. Do I really believe He, my Savior, will totally hear my prayers? Why are some prayers seemingly not answered and others are on spot?
What’s His Word say to us….” I know the plans I have for you…. not to harm you…. give you a hope and a future…” Jeremiah 29 11-13 (bits and pieces of it). The prayers that seemed ignored or not answered I need to change my view, my daily view, of how to look at God inside my faithing-It (or walking into my personal faith). God’s overall plan for my life is PERFECT because He is perfect…. His perfect is not my perfect. It is even WAY BETTER!
Bottom line: When we pray for anything, we are asked to first BELIEVE that God is able to do that thing.
“But when he asks, he must believe and don’t doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord, he is a double-minded man.” James 1:6-7
Hmmm. But what does God do when we feel hopeless? What does the Lord do when all the reality of the problem seems to point to ‘NO WAY OUT’ or “A MIRACLE? I DON’T THINK SO”. How many times do we come up feeling empty after asking God? We looked everywhere we know to look for His answer but did we ask our heavenly Father- truly believing God for His answer?
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We thought it would never arrive. No way- how can my child already be growing up?! Some pimples, facial hair poking through, or her chest filling out are all the tale-tale signs of puberty? How do we approach these very sensitive areas with our tweens? After all, this age alone has challenges as they change in mood and interests. Puberty is an unknown and with all unknowns comes a little anxiety, some fear, and just uncomfortable feelings.
Pace: Kids at different times – at their own pace according to their bodies. But typically boys are a bit later than girls- 9-15 and girls 8-14. Again there is no set time. Of course it makes them ill at ease. Some later than others or earlier than their peers makes for anxiety in some form. What is our experience? How can we BEST be equipped to help our tween?
Be On top: How can we best educate ourselves before our tweens comes with their questions? How can we explain in their language what IS puberty? What are the signs and what do boys and girls experience during this change?
Growing up: Change does not need to be upsetting or something to fear. It’s all about becoming an adult.
Girls: Let’s remember back when we went through puberty. Girls will begin to get a figure – wider hips, their chest will become womanly- breasts will grow, they will get their period and what is all that about? They will get a vaginal discharge as well. Why? How does that work into being an adult? Continue reading
Today, August 18, was another wonderful day of meeting more tween’s and listening to their great ideas and hearing their plans as school becomes once again a big part of their lives- summer is soon a memory…so many homeschooling kids – kids with plans …..They are have one thing in common….they love animals!!!
I always come home after an event and rejoice that Jesus was spoken of, that His name was discussed, that these little people and I carried on about Jesus because He was there in the middle of the conversation…..I wonder how many times in a typical day I miss those moments. Those times when I could have said “What would Jesus do?”…..It is then I ask, “Lord I want another time, another opportunity to clearly speak up for YOU….less of me and more of YOU. Teach me Jesus.