WHAT DID YOU READ about this morning or hear on the radio on your way into work? These days 9 times out of 10 the answer is just NOT GOOD NEWS. No matter what are personal opinions are about today’s world, politics, and the seemingly continued chaos, the news affects your emotions if you are truly honest with yourself. And more so if you are a parent of a middle schooler or high schooler. Our kids take it all in as much as we do but don’t have the years of experiential living to deal with it.
Studies show that their young minds are getting more and more anxiety ridden and most don’t realize this constant barrage of bad news brings on overwhelming symptoms. We parents are in position to defuse or lighten the emotions of our kids. If you could list the top 4 reasons why our teens and middle schoolers are depressed/anxiety ridden what would that list look like? Anything like this one I researched?
Control of the world around them or no control of their own lives adds to depression and anxiety. Lack of control or too much control affects them. Compared to decades past, today’s social issues, diseases, excess of materialism brings on confusion and the feeling that these impressionable youths have no control over their own lives.
Who is your Olympic all-time hero? Can you remember when you were a kid following an Olympian or a sports figure? Today as I write this, Shawn White took center stage literally on TV. He was the favorite this year to take home to the USA gold in not one but two sports, the slopestyle and the halfpipe. His announcement to withdraw from the very popular slopestyle was a shock to most of the world. But then as the news settled, Shaun’s decision worked for him in a big way. He won. He won in the minds and hearts of many parents that have kids who looked up to him …and still do.
I am so grateful for the world of tweens and just kids in particular to see a valuable lesson.
Shaun said amongst other sound words, “….the potential for risk of injury is a bit too much for me to gamble my other Olympic goals.” This spoken by the most decorated athlete to ever compete in the snowboarding events.
I see a clear message from Shaun: it’s OK to work hard and give your all to your sport or work, but then make a decision (not based on what you think others might want to hear), but on your own personal convictions. He sized up the way the Russians set up the event and after much agonizing deliberations inside his own mind and heart, he realized that he might get hurt; really hurt. Though he knew it was going be a tough one he followed through because he wanted to concentrate on the other goal without compromising himself; losing out on both or hurting his wrist even more than it was hurt. Continue reading
The other day I was in a huge hurry so I thought I’d save time in one of those 15 or less check outs at the grocery store. But my impatience suddenly calmed down when I heard two moms in front of me sharing. One mom said her 12 year old wanted to know what she (her mom) would do if she got pregnant! The friend wasn’t shocked; she just came back with her own experience last week. She laughed and then got real serious- looking, then told her friend that her 11 year old daughter was sick and tired of us (her mom and dad) making her do her homework before she was allowed to talk to her friends on her cell phone.
Not sure about you, but cell phones in an 11 year olds hands – might be a recipe for a “disconnect” between daughter and mom (?) These days tweens are not what they were in “those days”- the mom’s days. If we can just remember “those days” when we were tween’s and what came out of our wild and crazy minds and mouths! But these days, tween’s know all about sex, drugs, pornography, alcohol, and all the rest because of the media of TV and all the techie stuff parents allow their kids to own which connects them to the internet! These two moms are about to lose control of parenting their sons and daughters unless they stay savvy and connected with them on a daily basis. Continue reading